• Gail Armatys


If you’re reading this, you probably think you’ve experienced more than enough difficult changes and challenges for one year. Resilience may be what you need more than anything.

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from difficulties and adapt to stressful life changes.

Picture a rubber band in its resting position. All is well. Now, imagine putting extreme stress on it by pulling the rubber band as far as it will go. The rubber band is strained. Stretched thin. It can’t take any more pressure or it will—you guessed it, SNAP! With enough pressure, it could even break apart completely.

A snapping rubber band stings for a bit. But a woman (or man) who snaps tends to blow off more than steam. Destruction usually follows and often includes collateral damage including the breaking apart of relationships and future opportunities.

Without resilience, we stress, strain, and maybe blow apart under the pressure of our changing circumstances.

If you’re a Christian woman stretched to your limit by the stress of change and challenge, here are three God-honoring strategies you can use to build resilience.

1. Notice Where You Focus

We’d all likely agree Jesus was focused. But his concentration wasn’t on his frustrations and ongoing new situations. He was fully attentive to God’s will and the fulfillment of his purpose. In other words, he wasn’t thinking of himself and his situation. His desire was to please God by serving others and moving on to the completion of his God-given assignment.

What’s this mean for us? To be blunt, stop focusing on self.

Consider instead what God’s will is in the situation. If you’re not sure, ask him: God how do you want me to respond? Then, read his word and expect his answer. No doubt he will reveal his heart to you.

2. Work in Areas of Your Strengths

To the extent your circumstances allow, spend as much time as possible working in areas of your strengths. This builds confidence, enthusiasm, and forward momentum. All good and godly things.

Of course, during change and stressful circumstances there are issues you won’t want to deal with and must. So be sure to include using your strengths to help resolve and move through these situations as often as you can.

3. Be Thankful

The Bible teaches us to give thanks in all circumstances. When you're experiencing a time of difficult change and trial, the most unnatural thing for you to think to do would be to give thanks.

But, it’s the most spiritual thing you can do. God’s desire is that we consider what the situation will produce in our lives: aka, the blessing found in the opportunity for growth in faith and endurance. (See James 1:2-4)

If you and I make it a habit to be grateful now...each day, when extreme and challenging times arrive we will already be in position to respond in this God-glorifying way.

Jesus teaches us: In this world you will have trouble (John 16:33), so let’s no longer complain or be surprised by challenges, change, and the accompanying pressures. Instead, let’s begin making more mature responses and progress by building resilience now using these godly strategies.

In this way, we will positively affect our own lives through our relationships and potential future opportunities in God-honoring ways.

Your Coaching Question:

What is at least one God-honoring strategy you 're willing to apply to begin building resilience?