• Gail Armatys


Have you ever said to yourself, or heard a friend say, “I don’t know who I am anymore?” I remember saying it and I’ve heard it often from others. For young women, it often comes in the form of, "I don't know who I'm supposed to be."

As a Christian, you are not immune to losing yourself in the lives of others and what you think is expected of you. You pour your time and all you have into your work, your tasks, various people and their wants and needs. You go through your routine with the best of intentions. Then, at some point, you discover you no longer recognize or maybe even like the person staring back at you in the mirror.

You’ve lost yourself. Your true identity has been stolen.

Identity Theft

Identity theft has been a big problem and big business since technology has allowed us, even caused us, to share more information online about ourselves, our bank accounts, our interests, and our tastes than we ever imagined. If you’ve experienced this kind of identity theft you no doubt have felt the frustration, pain, and loss of this piracy.

But there’s another type of identity theft that’s even more damaging. Ingenious hackers sitting at their computers all around the globe do not instigate this thievery. No, it’s the enemy who penetrates every open door and opportunity given to cause this life-diminishing identity theft.

We shouldn’t be surprised. Jesus tells us so.

The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy.

Jesus, John 10:10

Are You A Victim of Identity Theft?

Have you become a victim of identity theft? Here are questions to help you find your answer.

Do you think of yourself as a loser? Ugly? Stupid? Guilty? Shameful? Not good enough? Never measuring up? Do you find yourself saying and doing things that undermine your values and feelings of worth to keep the peace? Is it impossible for you to say no? If so, you need to know these thoughts you're thinking are lies and the expectations you're trying to meet sabotage you but they don't define you. They are not who you are.

Your real identity, who you are, is not what you do, how you feel, how you look, or what people say about you. No doubt these things affect your life. But who you are, your true identity is something different.

Of course, you’ve made mistakes. Me too. Adam and Eve got the ball rolling on that one. But our mistakes don’t define us, they are, if we allow, meant to grow us. People have done and said mean-spirited, hurtful, life-altering things to you. They've taken advantage of you. Me too. But just because some other human said it and did it doesn’t make it truth.

You get to decide what you believe. Will you believe the world, the enemy and father of lies? Will you believe the thief who means to harm you and keep you hidden, feeling worthless, unhappy, and stuck?

Or will you believe God who wanted you so much that he created you in a special way, for a special reason, and different from everyone else? Will you believe God when he tells you he sent his Son to die for you because he loves you so much? That much?

Will you believe God?

Choosing to Believe God

If we really choose to believe God, then we must also live believing what he says about us no matter how our feelings and circumstances may try to persuade us otherwise.

This is what God says.

Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has become a child of God.

John 4:20

If you are a Christian, you are a child of God. He loves you as you are. He wants you to embrace and love who you are, too.

The Benefits of Believing

Do you know what else God said? In the same verse I mentioned earlier, John 10:10, when Jesus tells us Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy, he adds hope with these words:

My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.

The 'them' here is you.

God has given you, the YOU he made and calls his child, a rich and satisfying life. Will you accept it? Will you intentionally choose to live believing you are a child of God in spite of the lies, mean words, and actions against you? Will you instead, with Jesus, enjoy the rich and satisfying life he has died to give you?

What is one lie you believe about who you are God is calling you to drop. What truth can you speak over yourself instead?

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